Uncle James was a 6-foot-plus strong, soft-spoken, and highly articulate man. Uncle James knew how to be objective and when to be subjective. In every situation, he was a deeply principled man. A great writer and scholar. In his past life, he was an IBM executive and partner. One of the first people I knew who understood the pressures of performing in leadership and high-pressure situations. He showed that the gate was open to not only allow one to “climb the ladder" but also to lead with integrity. That short glimmer of light and hope revealed there was a path to the top, and that’s all I needed to see. He even helped me land a role with IBM, which I am grateful for. For me, IBM wasn't my style; I was more of an Apple kind of guy. My reality distortion field and counter-culture nature meant that I needed to be stimulated differently. IBM had some structures and lessons to offer, which, now looking back, I realize that the structure and rigor of IBM had a direct impact on him and how he engaged with business and relationships.
As an IBM executive, his character left an impression on me. Demeanor was that of a person who had been tried and tested over time. We often discussed the complexities of leadership, ethical dilemmas, and the challenge of maintaining integrity when it’s easy to compromise on core values and beliefs. James was a man of faith with strong values and a person who believed in the greater good. He always put others first. His humility was a source of inspiration, showing me how to play the game, how to maneuver among the corporate world, what to say, and when to say it. The way he handled business and carried himself was exemplary.
As a writer and reader, I delved into Uncle James’s writings, eager to understand his thoughts and perspectives. His book, as my mom and aunt mentioned, was a revelation. His articles in the Hellenic Pulse, shared on his Twitter and LinkedIn accounts, were not just impactful and timely but also culturally significant, providing a unique insight into the state of England today.
One of his pieces touched me: an article in the Hellenic Post on March 7th, entitled "The Tax Collector" with a picture of the Fall of Icarus by Jacob Peter Gawi. Gawi was a Flemish Baroque painter who collaborated with Peter Rubens in England. From what we see and understand from this picture, it's the Fall of Icarus, and it depicts a fall from grace, right? It tells a tragic story of Icarus' fall from the sky, and Jacob Gawi sought to capture the essence of the myth rather than convey intense emotion through it. The legend goes that the great Cretan king Minos was enjoying favor from Zeus, the legendary king of the gods. Minos' wife had an affair with a Cretan bull, which gave birth to the Minotaur, a monster. They decided to put the Minotaur in jail, so they hired Daedalus to build a confusing structure, the Labyrinth, from which it must never find a way out.
At some point, Daedalus decided to flee from Crete. He came up with a solution: build wings for his son, Icarus. The choice of imagery was poignant. As I read it, I realized why he wrote it. But I became confused and had to dig deeper into it to understand it.
Excerpt from James's last article, which he wrote in the Hellenic Pulse:
“Pharisee
And there is me, of course, lying in my quiet virtue, doing just as I was told. Perhaps, judging him a little bit.
I then realised that this is exactly the story of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector in the New Testament.
In Luke 18:9–14, Christ tells a parable about two men who go to the temple to pray.
The Pharisee stands proudly, thanking God that he is not like other sinners — especially the tax collector. He boasts about fasting and tithing (giving a tenth of his earnings to the poor).
The tax collector, standing at a distance, won’t even lift his eyes. He beats his chest and prays, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”
Flip
Christ concludes, ‘This man (the tax collector), rather than the other, went home justified before God.’
True righteousness comes from humility, not outward religious performance.
It is the truly humble that are justified, not the self-righteous.
It is a rebuke of spiritual pride and a reminder that honest repentance is more pleasing and fulfilling than boasting about honourable deeds (following instructions, acting well).
Humility out-trumps pride, repentance beats self-righteousness, and inner, quiet sincerity is greater that outward religiosity.
This parable flips social expectations — the ‘bad guy’ (tax collector) is accepted and made virtuous, and the ‘good guy’ (Pharisee) is not.
And there was me thinking, every time that I heard this story in church, that I was the tax collector. Whereas I was, in fact, the Pharisee. Who knew?
And even tough the gent opposite delayed his release by a couple of days, I myself then had a random mucus plug (look it up!), that also slightly delayed my discharge from hospital bed as well. Perhaps as cosmic / divine punishment for my Phaiseedom!
We learn.”
On the surface, James emphasizes the importance of behaving correctly, following the rules, and doing what's asked. But he also admits to sometimes judging others (which we all do) and believes he was being humbled. However, he realizes in his quiet compliance that he was acting like the Pharisee, and this is both painful and illuminating.
My interpretation was this: being morally superior and showing it is wrong. James shared this parable with my father. The “Pharisee vs. Tax Collector” story is biblical and used to illustrate spiritual misalignment. Scripture isn't just ancient teaching. It's a reflective lens for the modern ego. Greek philosophy adds weight to this lesson. James linked the moral lesson of hubris and nemesis—pride and its consequence. By drawing on Christian and Greek traditions, James underscored a timeless message about confidence. One's own virtue invites doubt. Whether through divine faith or myth, or by adapting Greek strategy, arrogance is corrected. The tax collector, the humble one, returns.
Even in the hospital, James kept his sense of humor. He didn’t dwell on guilt or self-reproach, but reflected with wit and humility. He even joked that minor health setbacks were cosmic punishment for his pride, though we knew they weren’t. We understood that James lived a life of lasting impact.
Wisdom isn't about knowing better; it's about being able to laugh at your flaws and grow from them. With James' final message, "Run home. Be nice, get home by six." He understood the takeaway: his voice, hubris, walks in truth. Be kind and try to make it home for dinner; it's a wink towards grounded morality. Grand lessons should still apply to daily life. For me, profound truth is often simple. Humility, honesty, and humanity are what matter most.
After his time at IBM, having spent 30 years in the IT industry, he quit IBM at the top of his game to teach maths. I wanted to know why maths? Why not something else? He replied I want to give back to the UK. I want to give back to the education system. He shared with me an excerpt from the 4th Industrial Revolution and the World Economic Forum, noting that the most significant gap was in mathematics and science, and that kids were struggling to understand math because they spend too much time on social media, making it challenging to develop analytical skills. He wanted to maintain consistency in the teaching of math in the educational sector, where schools struggle to retain and hire math teachers. One thing he told me, and I often reflect upon it, is that he enjoyed starting from the bottom again and being at the bottom of the rung, not having to worry about things like budgets.
At this stage of life, he just wanted to teach. He had transitioned from a hiatus status to one of giving back. He touched on his time at IBM, which was a gratifying experience. The importance of planning in terms of being mentally, financially, and also physically prepared. He mentioned his time at St. Thomas More, where he found a rhythm in his new job. He went from being just a Maths and Science teacher to Department Head of Business in a few years and transformed the school, which is a very momentous achievement. Being at the school, he invited me to come and speak about the work I was doing in supporting Black Entrepreneurs. That's when I was at my previous firm and gave a Black History talk about the impact of what we're doing. Mind you, almost 70-80% of the students there were Black or Black British. One thing that stood out was its significant impact. I could see his face. He was pleased that I came, and the vision and the impact he left on the students showed that it was an opportunity to encourage the students to become Entrepreneurs.
One thing that was particularly poignant from my perspective was giving back, and that's something I wanted to lead with. He was pleased with my talk. It gave him brownie points; some clout with the kids. I was happy to help where I could.
Now he was one of the few good men because of his life principles. He was a role model to me. Why? Because of the way he did things, he approached them with care, compassion, and a profound elegance. As a Sigma Chi, I hold seven virtues close to my heart. They are my guide, standard, and benchmark for who I consider friends and from whom I learn. Everyone I hold close has good character, fair ability, ambitious purposes, a congenial disposition, good morals, a high sense of honor, and a deep sense of responsibility. These seven virtues are rare. It's good to have standards. Without them, your beliefs fall apart, and you lack integrity. James had all these virtues. In today's world, he would have been a Sigma Chi. I say that because he is one of the few good men.
Supporting James's Legacy
In memory of James Neophytou, contributions can be made to The King's College Hospital Charity, where he received care during his final journey. Your support helps continue the compassionate medical care that meant so much to him and our family.
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James's Published Works
James leaves behind a intellectual legacy through his writings, which continue to offer wisdom on simplicity, complexity, and the human experience:
We've got it SIMPLE, but we've made it COMPLICATED - A reflection on how we overcomplicate life's fundamental truths
Angels & Morphia - His profound observations on life, mortality, and meaning
These works capture James's unique ability to distill complex ideas into accessible wisdom – a gift he shared both in the boardroom and the classroom. They stand as testament to a mind that never stopped questioning, learning, and teaching.